This is such a commonly asked and debated topic when it comes to planning your day and as with most aspects of weddings, there really is no right or wrong answer. For some of you, your perfect day is an adult only affair, where your guests can let their hair down, enjoy a few glasses of bubbly and not have to worry about bored or tired children. Others will want a true family celebration and love the idea of their day being full of happy, laughing children.
Here at Pocketful of Dreams we are big believers that couples should do whatever will make them happy on their wedding day; don’t get hung up on what you think your guests expect or what other people you know did on their wedding, just think about what you want. Whatever you do decide on, there are a few things to consider to avoid any uncertainty and difficulties.
1) Be clear and upfront – if you have decided not to have children present, then declaring this upfront and early on, for example on your wedding invitations, gives guests the chance to make suitable arrangements for child care. Don’t forget weddings are expensive for guests too and if people need to factor in the cost and logistics of a babysitter then it’s only fair to give them as much notice as possible. Avoid vague references and be clear about what you want; it will avoid misinterpretation and you will find that most parents will relish the opportunity to have a day off!
2) Be consistent – problems can arise when you declare your wedding a child-free zone and then start making exceptions, be it for nieces, your bridesmaid’s son or your friend who just can’t get a babysitter. It’s important you stick to your guns, not only will this guarantee you get the day you want but it avoids awkward situations where guests start to wonder why their child wasn’t invited but others were. Also, don’t forget that weddings are long days – being the only child at an adult-only event is going to be boring and it becomes difficult to provide alternative entertainment just for one! So if you are going child-free, then ensure this is wholeheartedly implemented!
3) Ensure children are well taken care of – if children are invited, then go the extra mile to guarantee that they enjoy the day as well. Creating a fun day for the kids ensures their parents can relax and enjoy themselves and avoids disruption during stages of the day which children may find boring (the ceremony, the wedding breakfast, the speeches!). Taking the time to think about the enjoyment of your younger guests really will pay dividends for everyone.
If you have a specific question you’d like our expert advice on, or to find out more about the wedding planning services Pocketful of Dreams can offer, then email vicki@pocketfulofdreams.co.uk
Michelle & Vicki xx
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